by René Davis (Duquesne University, Class of 2010)
Conversation is one of many aspects of how people and societies function. Communication between people is the essence of how we get from day to day and function in the world around us. Problems present themselves, however, when one does not have the skills or is not comfortable with the process of conversation. Conversation can truly be a terrifying ordeal for many, and one of the most trying daily obstacles they have to overcome. For others, it may not be terrifying, but more awkward and uncomfortable, because they just do not know how to handle themselves in conversational situations.
People who stutter, can have extreme difficulty making conversation. They have many fears and anxieties about speaking, which can make conversation tremendously challenging. Because of this, many people who stutter tend to avoid speaking situations and do not engage in social conversation, which diminishes their speaking skills. Because people who stutter can have strong anxiety and fear about speaking, it may be helpful to have some instruction and steps for making conversation. Then, should they become overwhelmed, they have a foundation to fall back upon.
People who stutter can master the art of conversation; it's just a matter of knowing some basic steps to become a "conversationalist" and having the tools to help them succeed.
The 5 Steps of Conversation are as follows: |
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Getting the Conversation Started |
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Personal Introduction |
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Finding Topics to Discuss |
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Expanding the Topic |
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Ending the Conversation |
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Along with the five basic steps to conversation, there are many tips that may assist in making the steps flow smoothly together. They are as follows:
1) Remember conversation is a two way street and each person must give and take.
2) Stay educated on current events, Read newspapers watch the news.
3) Keep topics appropriate
4) Make eye contact throughout the whole conversation
5) Smile
6) Listen to what other person is saying and remember what is said in your conversations
7) Practice, practice, practice. Start conversations with everyone you come across. Force yourself into small talk conversations throughout the day
8) Talk to yourself in the mirror
9) Work to overcome feelings of shyness, and become a confident speaker.
Being a good conversationalist takes practice. Balancing target use and thinking of things to say can be a real challenge. But as you become more skilled, you will become less anxious. This will enable target use to be easier and the thoughts and ideas to add to the conversation flow.
Rentschler, 2008